Tuesday, April 27, 2010

To those who are married, .. Not married .. and soon 2 be married,

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.

She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully..

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

By: Joey Gabinete Acebron

Monday, April 26, 2010

ess batu +++

hot sunday..we woke up early today (i personally woke up at 8.30 m..hehehhe..early sangat la kunun)..get ready and heading to the place i must go every weekend-pasar satok..hehhehe..

then after 2 hours there we went to chill ourself with ess batu ++ (ABC)...
aaaaaaaa... really refreshing n totally delicious!




nyum nyum..


sedang menikmati



tadaaaaaaaaaa...sudah abis..

Friday, April 23, 2010

Small changes, big result !

We all know that a healthy lifestyle is the key to long term health and staying in shape. Me, myself want to lose weight but im very lazy to do any workout (hehehehhee..) and I believe not all of us able to go to the gym everyday.. then I found this interesting article and I want to share it with u..after all we know that sharing is caring rite

1.Weighing frequently – so u will know when ur weight increase and take step to overcome it.

2.Bounce n balance-it had been claim that bounce and balance activity can improve ur bones strength. So, try jumping frequently or stomp your feet when marching in place or u can try to stand on one leg…

3.Always get moving-when you sit more, you move less, and your body starts to atrophy..

4. Start singing !- Actively participating in music—singing or playing an instrument, as opposed to just listening—can sharpen your attention and improve your memory for spoken words,” say brain researchers Jeff Brown and Mark Fenske,. So, let’s sing babes !!

5.Stretch Your Upper Back- it claim that u will feel ur upper body more flexible, and encourages fuller breaths, and the increased oxygen will feel calming..

6.EXERCISE- MOST IMPORTANT PRESCRIPTION FOR WEIGHT LOSE !

enjoy n gud luck babes!!

Thursday, April 22, 2010

selamat tido babes :)

Biarkan berlalu
Semua kepedihanmu
Lelapkan matamu
Biarkan mimpi membawamu
Ke mana kau mahu
Selamat malam
Tidurlah sayangku
Siang kan tiba bercahaya
Bermula baru semua untukmu

Biarkan berlabuh tirai kisah semalam
Yang indah itu ada padamu
Dengan setiap impian dan harapan
Selamat malam
Tidurlah sayangku
Siangkan tiba bercahaya
Bermula baru semua untukmu

Kan ku menjadi arjuna dalam mimpi-mimpimu
Kan ku panah tepat ke jiwamu atas nama cintaku
Pari-pari ku utus bawa kau ke sini lagi
Terhapus semua air mata dengan senyuman

Selamat malam sayang
Selamat malam kasih
Selamat malam sayang
Woooo...

Selamat malam sayang
Selamat malam kasih
Selamat malam sayang
Woooo...
Tidurlah sayangku
Siangkan tiba bercahaya
Bermula baru semua untukmu

Selamat malam
Tidurlah sayangku


selamat tdo semua.. :)

have a sweet dreams babes !





Wednesday, April 21, 2010

at least. :)

i think im fallin in love...

oohh.. don't get me wrong okeyyyy..hehehhe...

i only always fall in lurrrve with my hubby okeyyy..hehehe..

what i mean is im start to enjoy this blogging things.. and i luv it!!

it seem very difficult at the beginning, but it will be easy once u know how 2 handle it..

even my life if getting busy, i'll try to update my blog everyday..

i'll try at least one post a day....

ooooohhhh yeeeaaahhhh !!!


jom merapu rapu :p

Monday, April 19, 2010

panjang umur nya....

Today is my sister’s birthday!!!

happy birthday to you..

happy birthday to you……

happy birthday to NANI…..

happy birthday to you……

happy birthday NANI !!!!

wish you:

Dirahmati ALLAH selalu

murah rezeki

panjang umur

sihat selalu

all the best

I luv u sis !!!!



haiiissshhhh !!!

How time flies! It’s already end of april…. There is many thing I haven’t accomplish.. I guess I should be more focus on my mission..8 months to go before 2011.. wish I could achieve all my 2010 resolution…

Nothing exciting happened last weekend.. just another frustration result..really sad…huhuhuhu.. I keep thinking why and why??? Where did I make mistake??? But then I realized that GOD always have plan for us.. and I REDHA on what had happened.. nothing else I can do except to move on and keep trying..Keep trying and have faith…

Monday, April 12, 2010

DIET oh DIET

Arrrrggghhhhh…. OMG…my weight increase again… this may b because recently I just stay at home and doing nothing but cooking…huhuhu…what should I do?? How I can get rid those extra fats that hide inside my body..my mind start planning what to do…planning is easy but the difficult part is to execute it..my hubby also had the same problem..since we were married, our weight tend to increase..hahahaha.. my hubby start to jog every time he had in the afternoon..

I had found an interesting ways that maybe can help me to solve this problem.. www.bodyrock.tv. i challenge myself to follow the step for 1 month.. .

NO FASTFOOD!!!

NO CHOCOLATE!!!

NO JUNKFOOD!!!

NO SUGAR (except from the food i take)

EXERCISE ( 3 times a week)

My starting weight for this challenge is 52kg..and my aim is to get 47kg..that means I had to reduce 5 kg..1st week I felt so teriible..it is very hard to control my self..but still I manage to do it.. I hope I can do this until the end..an if there is a positive result I will reward myself..so, wish me luck..

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Teacher??

once again i landed at this job..

Alhamdulillah.. after a few months being unemployed i had this opportunity knock to my door..

oo yeah...i started teaching again..

i had to wake up early starting today..huhuhu..i think im gonna miss my 'ngando' habit..

this school is very different from the previous school i had been before..

so, im a little bit nervous.. do not know what to expect.. or maybe im thinking too much..hehehe..

oh god, please give me strength..

calm down ...i can do it..!!!

yess i can..